I was reading this old article over at Cosmo (I know, I shouldn’t read that…lol) that talked about the so-called “best age” to get married.
Hmmmm… ya really think so? Let’s talk about this.
At 20, you know VERY little about yourself….how can you share a life with someone when you don’t even know how to live with yourself yet?
However, I know plenty of couples that married young and have done well for years and years with no signs of stopping.
Can age REALLY matter that much?
I was 38 (ok, a month shy of 39) when I married my Mr Perfect and yes, I knew MUCH more about myself, the world, and about relationships.
The best thing I learned was that it was MY job to make myself happy. It’s no one’s job but mine. Oddly, that simple lesson helped me tremendously and it’s funny how much happier I am knowing it’s not HIS job to make me happy.
Since I am a strong and independent woman who takes control of her own destiny and happiness, this takes the pressure off HIM – which, in turn, makes it easier for him to do things that really do make me feel happy and loved.
I know it’s counter-intuitive, but it really works. Stop making HIM responsible for your happiness and he’ll end up making you happier than words can express.
I just don’t really think it’s an age thing – I think it’s a mentality that can be learned at any age.
What do YOU think?